In today’s society people still believe that same-sex couples made a choice. We’ve all decided that we wanted to be picked out from the crowds, displayed for all to see and judged for being ourselves. That sounds exactly like what we chose at birth.
I can see how it looks like choice. As a child we are taught to like the opposite sex. It is almost forced upon us. If we even sway the other way we’re immediately “corrected” or “fixed” before it’s too late.
Once we’re in the teenage years we become more curious about sexuality and more familiar with our body. We start to explore the world of love whether that be with a boy or a girl. Sometimes it’s for the right reason and sometimes it’s to impress someone, however for the most part it is to explore sexuality and sex awareness.
By the time we reach high school, we’ve gotten to a point where we know more about ourselves. We’ve come to the semi-conclusion of boy or girl. Sometimes people still struggle with this decision beyond this time, and that is fine too.
During the college years, these years get even worse for some. This is the time of even more experimenting with sexuality. Who really knows what anyone wants at this point? Go to a college party one night feeling “straight” kiss the same-sex and hmm it has you thinking well I like it, what now?
These feelings exist for a reason. People aren’t meant to just decide because someone told them to under pressure.
We aren’t making choices, we’re learning about ourselves and what we want. We’re learning so much still about life. Our sexuality has ultimately already been predetermined anywhere from prior to birth to whenever it is determined really. Who’s to say when really, it just happens. It will just click when it clicks.
Everyone is different and life happens. Nobody can decide for anyone when they know. If someone tells you that you made the choice to be gay, bisexual or lesbian say no I didn’t I am myself.
You can be love regardless of your sexuality. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
Blog by Melissa Chandler
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