Foul Language

Exposed to foul language can cause a conflict

Children are exposed to many things, more specifically foul language. It may be at home, in a public setting, at school, a friends house, or even at a family event. Either way foul language is unavoidable.

In many situations the parents can decide whether to remove the child from the area or stay. There is another option that is more conflicting that I wouldn’t suggest: demanding the individual (specifically an adult) to not use that kind of language.

Now I understand that as a parent we don’t want our children subjected to foul language, however to demand another adult to stop in such a negative manner wasn’t the way to go. Secondly, the child who heard the foul language being used has more than likely heard this before.

When my son is around I try my best to not use foul language, but it isn’t easy. It is a language that I have become accustomed to over the years. It doesn’t make me feel “smarter” or “wiser” using these words, they just come out.

Once I noticed that he started repeating the foul language I used around him I started limiting the usage around him as much as possible, but it is difficult when I’ve done it for so long. It is literally hard to “teach a dog new tricks.”

So I came up with alternatives to the foul language that helped him and I adjust. This really helped us out. I learned a lesson while teaching him how to not use the foul language that will ultimately get him in trouble.

I am not going to lie, I still use the foul language. I am not perfect. But when he does slip and use the foul language he is asked if he is suppose to use those words. He says no. Sometimes he hears the wife or I use a foul words and he says no no bad words. Which reminds us that we do need to filter ourselves around him.

Raising our son isn’t easy, but it is a team effort the three of us altogether.

Blog by Melissa Chandler