Publicly announcing our love
Explaining our relationship to family, neighbors, physician’s, and curious onlookers wasn’t always as easy as it looks. In the beginning we had issues and we eventually overcame them with practice and perseverance.
It took courage and a better understanding of ourselves to really be able to explain to the curious individuals. We started with the closest people to us first: family members. It was simple as we’re dating: girlfriends.
After we moved in together and had neighbors, this meant we had to be somewhat social and they would see us on a regular basis. At this point the curious became curious. They started asking questions. Which is what we expected to happen. Its a natural part of life and everyone does it. So out of respect we answered. Yes, we are a couple. It was that simple.
As our relationship became more serious, this is where we were able to make appointments for the other “partner” and pick up prescriptions. If someone asked the relationship the usual response was my girlfriend. Once we got married the response became my wife.
It may sound a bit childish, but I still get a little chuckle when I say wife and someone gives me a look of what did she just say. It’s like they can’t believe it. Yes I did say wife, no you didn’t hear wrong and yes I am a lesbian. Now that we have cleared that up, can I get what I need and get on with my life. Thanks.
As for curious onlookers, they are a whole different kind of individual. It isn’t so much that they ask questions verbally, but they have this questionable glance or disgust about them that just exudes from them. It doesn’t affect me at all, however it is hard to not notice and in a way acknowledge it.
You would think that with everything that this country has fought for that everyone would be allowed to love whoever they want. Being yourself wherever you want should be allowed regardless of who see’s you. Love is love and that is all that matters. I saw a protest sign on Facebook that was being held by a black male and white female couple protesting same-sex marriage. Seriously your relationship was once wronged. Let’s stop saying who can love who.
Now when someone asks who the woman next to me is I say she is my wife. I say she put a ring on it. I am very proud to call her my wife. Nobody can take that from me.
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